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Friday, July 31, 2009
Hi all please read this message carefully with understanding ya..This message is from my ex-hubby's wife's blog..And her friend's who don't know wat's happening just comments only after listening only her story..
SceNario is : -
a broken family with 3 children, aged 7,10 & 12. Both parent has re-married and have their own family. The childrens' custody was given to the wife. However, the children were split up and placed in different homes by the mother. The youngest followed the mother, the middle one followed the aunt & the eldest followed the uncle. They were, looked after & maintained by each individual family caring for them, their father provides maintenance for his children to their mother directly. However, each time having difficulty having access to his children & communications were cut.
Recently, the mother took the eldest child to stay with her. Except for the middle child who prefers to continue staying with the aunt. It doesnt end there, today both children has been thrown out by their own mother! What could children of their age have done that requires them to be thrown out? The person they turned to is their father, who was cut off from them all this while.
Hmm...putting urself in these 2 children shoes'. For kids of their age, would your know where to turn to if you've got no father or unable to reach your father at all? I mean throwing out a teenager or adult is totally different in a way as they got the sources to get around or something. hmm....
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replyjamminiya wrote on Jul 14
ni yg orang ckp... buat anak tahu, nak menjaga tak tahu...
replymasya wrote on Jul 14
jamminiya said
ni yg orang ckp... buat anak tahu, nak menjaga tak tahu...
heee...lama cik iya ilang yer!
amcm ada baik? heee...
yap2...btul kate pepatah u tuh...
bukan tk tau...senang kata nak lepas tangan ar...but duit nak...
replycdah33 wrote on Jul 14
haizzz.... apa lah org nie...
senang2 aje aje lepas tangan...
replymyfatbum wrote on Jul 14
hmm.. wat kind of a mother is dat??? seorang ibu will never do dat to her child, unless a father lah.. i agree wif u.. apelah salah BESAR dat dey can do to incur the wrath of the mother? anyway, dat kind of woman is not fit to be called a mother lah!
replymasya wrote on Jul 14, edited on Jul 14
cdah33 said
haizzz.... apa lah org nie...
senang2 aje aje lepas tangan...
yah...mayb to this person beranak senang...
and d children kira mcm anak kucing ar...
suka amek..tk suka buang....
mak kucing, anak ilang pon carik! apelagi nk buang...
replymasya wrote on Jul 14
myfatbum said
hmm.. wat kind of a mother is dat??? seorang ibu will never do dat to her child, unless a father lah.. i agree wif u.. apelah salah BESAR dat dey can do to incur the wrath of the mother? anyway, dat kind of woman is not fit to be called a mother lah!
mungkin to this person...anak can oways have another...
dapat anak with new husband...the old children da tk pandang la...
yeah...y must the children be the victim?
well, what i know is that...KARMA...what u do now to ur kids...
they will do tat to u wen ur old...then it'll be too late to realise anytin...
replysnazzyladysfashion wrote on Jul 15
thx for sharing. mcm perna nmpk pekara ni belaku d depan mate i really sedih sgt
replymasya wrote on Jul 15
snazzyladysfashion said
thx for sharing. mcm perna nmpk pekara ni belaku d depan mate i really sedih sgt
no prob...this incident is close to heart..
n being a single parent b4 & having my new family now..
i wouldnt want to even tink of throwing out my dotter..
sedih is the kids yg jadi victim, no idea what is running thru their minds...
replyjamminiya wrote on Jul 15
hidup lagi.. alhamdullilah...hehe..
hmm.. dah dapat kebahagian with new husband... e children di biar kan.. jgn t dah tua sakit sana sini.. baru nak cari anak yg dihalaunye.. ru dia tahu langit tu tinggi or rendah..
replymasya wrote on Jul 15
jamminiya said
hidup lagi.. alhamdullilah...hehe..
hmm.. dah dapat kebahagian with new husband... e children di biar kan.. jgn t dah tua sakit sana sini.. baru nak cari anak yg dihalaunye.. ru dia tahu langit tu tinggi or rendah..
ishk! alhamdulilah...heee...smoga pjg umur yer...
i guess so...bt my pov...children shldnt be victims...try to avoid making them the victim of adults problems.
replyindralove wrote on Jul 17
I regret to say... i am in that father's shoe.
there's this saying (maaf kata kalau tersinggung, tapi tak semuanya. I'm saying from my personal experience)
Lelaki ambil jagaan anak kerana Zuriat
Wanita ambil anak kerana wasiat ($$$$$)
replymasya wrote on Jul 17
yeah..4 u nasib aik ur doter stil young..nw these kids muz b confused..
Hee..ada bnarnya..bt tat last quote tk aply 2 me..sal 0.01 sen pn i tk gt..since bein single parent..n 2 me branak was n xperien nt 2 4gt coz i was cut up..
replyindralove wrote on Jul 17
masya said
bt tat last quote tk aply 2 me..sal 0.01 sen pn i tk gt..
Like i said, tak semua.
but my case clear cut.. baru give birth 2mths from caesarian (dah terang belum baik)... kemaruk nak keje kat Taman Jurong Cisco Recall kat bapak dia, coz u know the kurafat story rite? They wanna "ikat" me but i terlepas and dah pindah. So the alternative is to use my ex-wife as a puppet to "Ikat" me. So when unsuccessful, force a divorce and tak keje... so that can claim lucrative maintenance.
When i found out .. it's actually abt $$$$..
So my divorce, she claimed maintenance $500/mth for an 18mths old baby (many said it's ridiculous).
*whisper* Some new people i met... still tell me to rescue my daughter coz.. they dont really care for my daughter, but just the $
replymasya wrote on Jul 17
indralove said
Like i said, tak semua.
but my case clear cut.. baru give birth 2mths from caesarian (dah terang belum baik)... kemaruk nak keje kat Taman Jurong Cisco Recall kat bapak dia, coz u know the kurafat story rite? They wanna "ikat" me but i terlepas and dah pindah. So the alternative is to use my ex-wife as a puppet to "Ikat" me. So when unsuccessful, force a divorce and tak keje... so that can claim lucrative maintenance.
When i found out .. it's actually abt $$$$..
So my divorce, she claimed maintenance $500/mth for an 18mths old baby (many said it's ridiculous).
*whisper* Some new people i met... still tell me to rescue my daughter coz.. they dont really care for my daughter, but just the $
yeah...not all...bt tis few peeps spoil market...
mak oi...btul tuh, ridiculous..n u agreed?
hmm,i mean if can afford and ada org le look after...y not?
agi gal...in fture nak kahwin pon..she kena find u...
replyindralove wrote on Jul 17, edited on Jul 17
masya said
mak oi...btul tuh, ridiculous..n u agreed?
Well .. one nurse told me .. Princess is mal-nutritioned ...we'll see lah if my "whisper-quote" is true or not. Coz each time i took Princess out ... she seems like tak makan forever and can swallow a dinosaur ... kalau no choice.. i gotta cripple the mother psychologically and monopolize the full custody care and control..
I'm just waitin for the button to be pressed
replymasya wrote on Jul 17
ic..ishk! Main waitin game lak..hehe, skali u takeovr,princess boom! Mcm my princess,when my mum took ovr.
replyindralove wrote on Jul 17
masya said
ic..ishk! Main waitin game lak..hehe, skali u takeovr,princess boom! Mcm my princess,when my mum took ovr.
haha .. Insya-Allah ... coz each access i notice .. when i recited ayat Kursi to her ... princess became active and lively from a stale and weak mode
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My story...My 1st son is very rebellious not because there's no discipline but he's more proned to his dad's character.Very stubborn, show off, proud of something whereas there's no future for that and wants to act that he's someone..He followed my neighbour for house-breaking and he forced my 3rd son to accompany him.This is not the only mistake that he have done...There's a lottttt that I think I don't have to elaborate cos the main thing is this is the major mistake that he have done and he have to be punished!!I told him if you keep giving me problems you better go to your dad's place.Cos I've told him you make mistake you have to face it and he saw his friend caught by the police with his own eyes.I only told him but he forced my 3rd son to follow him to his dad's place...So he told me he cannot stay with me and he have to go to his dad's place and that same afternoon before i reached home he left with my 3rd son with his dad..So maybe, he never told his dad & his step-mom (who is my very good friend previously) his major mistake but instead he told them i threw both of them out from the house..
And if their father act fast using his brain & mentality, he should ask his kids what's the problem and why ur mom threw you out of the house..He as a father should not trust 100% to what his son have said to him cos by this time he should know that his son is able to tell lies..and not blaming the mother for nothing..STUPID rite..
Well peeps, i've tried advising my 1st son in a good manner and not scolding and I've tried all ways & means to discipline them but he took advantage from my kindness and as for me and hubby, we are more to discipline cos we want the best for our children.
In her story she mentioned that her hubby gave me monthly maintenence but does she knows that he never paid me since OCTOBER 2008?? Huh only ALLAH knows.And she was saying she did not ask from her ex-hubby a single cent for her dotter..Well if I have 1 son from my single marriage,I will do like her too but I have THREE (3) from my previous marriage and 1 from my current marriage.May be she's jealous cos until now she's not pregnant after she got married on 02.02.2008..mandul tak??hehehe...Yes if possible I don't want my kids to see their dad its because he is more to gangsterism..and all the negative things..his dad ever came back drunk, fall down after stepping into the room in front of my kids..
Baru-baru keluar jail...baik macam ulamak, sembahyang and etc..after few months, back to his old ways.Another thing sepatutnye tanya anak, da besar nak kerja aper or nak jadi aper but instead of asking that, he ask them da besar nak masok GROUP aper??? Astaghfirullahhalazhim.....So if you're in my shoes would you allow them to see & stay with their father???
Mana ada seorang Ibu yang sanggup menganiaya anak-anaknye..I'm not that cruel as wat she or her friends thought..It's just that I wanna teach them a lesson for their mistake..Hanya orang gila jer yang akan membenci anak-anaknye..
I DOUBT SO....BUT WATEVER HAPPENED I HAVE TO TERIMA DENGAN SABAR...INSYA-ALLAH...DOAKAN SAYA DAN KELUARGA DIBERI KESEJAHTERAAN, KESABARAN, KETENANGAN DAN KEBAHAGIAAN...WABILAHI TAUFIQ....WASSALLAMUALAIKUM WR....WB...
P.S
Haiz ada banyak lagi aku nak cakap tapi takde masa...lain kali ok..si masni pulak macam paham jer about jaga anak...anak kau 1 bole lah kau cakap besar...But it's ok suami kau selalu beritahu court dia takde duit...every word comes out from your mouth is a doa dan semoga ALLAH makbulkan doa suami kau ok..
I'm in Dilema...Please Help!!!
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
My son have been giving me problems again...
On Monday he was scolded by me & hubby for going out to play soccer till late evening still not back.I've told him time and again to be back by 630pm.When he came back we warn him again about his curfew.On that day he told my hubby that he found a handphone but I wont believe watever reasons he gave me..
So the next day (Tuesday), he sms me informing about his new number.Then a few minutes later he called me and told me that he have bad news for me.So without hesitating I ask him wats the bad news.Then he told me that my neighbour son's was caught by the police.So I told him don't be busybody and it's none of our business..
But after hanging up the phone, I don't feel good so I call him back again and ask him about his handphone.But he insist that he stole the handphone.So I sms my neighbour's dotter and ask her what happened and she told me that the boy's was caught for house-breaking.Then I quickly called up my son again but my 1st one told me that he did not go anywhere and when I ask abt my 3rd son, he told me to ask him myself.So when I ask my 3rd son he told me he knows wat happens.So I just tell myself to be prepared for the worst!!!
After that I told my son that since he did not want to listen to me nor my hubby, he might as well get out of the house!!So he decided to call his dad..So I message his dad...saying to advise his sons not to be so smart as to follow the boys whom he just met and do the stupid things..Instead of asking me what happen, he told me that I dont know how to look after my children...what the hell...I felt really sad after reading his sms.As for my son, I have been taking care of him since he's a baby and now he's 12 yrs old and yet he did this to me???His dad dont ever think of giving them monthly maintenance and me & hubby have to support him and his siblings from school allowances to medical fees and hospitalisation...Hmmm...I'm really hurt!!!
For Syazrin, when you've grown up I hope you can think wisely and I pray to Allah that sooner or later you can change for the BEST...Insya Allah...
My Anniversary Present!!!
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
I had an advance "Anniversary Present" from my beloved Hubby...I didn't expect him to give me this but actually I've been longing for this for quite some time..Hehehe
I've got this at last!!!Thank you Love!!!
It was a boring day on Friday 09/07/09 cos we, whole family is down with sore eyes..
It was really suffering and everybody felt miserable..Everybody was like Vampire...Cannot see the sun and the light..We covered all our windows with our thick blanket..hahaha..So at abt 3 when everybody was so bored, hubby decided to take us out and we went to geylang to buy my present at Golden Chance..hahaha I felt so happy and so touched.Thank you Love for being a GREAT hubby and a GREAT parent towards my kiddos.Thank you for your care n concern...your love that you've showered us...
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